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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Hero Quest Chapter 2 part 3

In the parking lot, the dumpster was being put back into position after being emptied.  The driver of that truck was amazing.  John remembered watching the driver maneuver between cars, snow banks and people last winter to put that dumpster right where it belonged.  With this many people at the shelter it was always a relief to have an empty dumpster.  Before the truck even got out of the parking lot the maintenance truck pulled in with the housekeeping team.  One of the guys jumped out when he saw John.  John directed them to rooms 16 and 17 so they could deep clean those rooms. 
While they were parking their van, he saw the truck from the Thrift Stores stopped on the busy street waiting for traffic to pass.  The Mission’s logo was plastered prominently on the sides of the truck for all to read.  The mission hoped to cultivate a community presence, to be familiar around town.  This also made him smile.  The work that the Mission was able to do was really only possible because of the generosity of this community. 
John’s smile widened as he watched the driver of the thrift store truck try to navigate on the busy street in front of the shelter.  There wasn’t much room to maneuver in the parking lot as he was attempting to back in.   Since the street was busy, he was using the parking lot across the street to get himself lined up for a straight shot into the shelter lot.  Four lanes of traffic stood between the driver and the shelter gate.  The problem was the business across the street was a brothel with a bikini espresso bar attached.  John wondered what donors would think if they saw the Mission’s truck in that vicinity.  He decided to help out and get that truck moving.  Cautiously, he moved out into traffic and stopped the cars.  The driver rocketed across the street, apparently eager to exit the vicinity of the bikini bar and all it represented. 
John realized that what he had just done was a picture of the job they had to do at the Shelter.  We help people get into a better position to launch them into a new life. This illuminating thought brought new life to John.  What an honor, he thought.
After welcoming the driver, Bob, he helped him load the donations into his truck.  As Bob pulled down the back door they insulted each other as only men who really like each other can, shook hands in farewell, and John returned to the duty of getting that clog fixed.   
     The basement smelled musty, but musty was one of the better smells at the Shelter.  At least this smell was predictable and that fact alone comforted him.  Strangely he walked past the work bench that housed the tools and simply walked around the basement.  His memory returned to a time when there really were no lights.  He had strung extension cords and lamps around this place.  It may not have been safe, but it had to be lit somehow. 
His eyes looked at the shelves of soap, shampoo and other toiletries that had all been donated. Somehow seeing the full shelves of toilet paper, feminine products and other assorted necessary items again spoke to him of a God who provides.  To most people these were just common items, but to those that were staying at the Shelter, most of whom had nothing, these items were priceless.  He smiled as he took time to speak a prayer of thanksgiving.  As he finished his loop of the basement, he grabbed the wrench, took a blue bucket to place under the pipe and began heading toward room five to open that drain. 
When he stepped out into the parking lot he noticed the donation truck was still there.  “That’s weird,” thought John.  He looked in the office.  Darlene was still talking with the lady she was with earlier.  No Bob.  John looked all around the parking lot and saw not one soul moving around.  As he moved down the sidewalk he could see Bob halfway under the hood, scratching his head. 
Bob gave a crooked smile. “Ah, you got jumper cables?  I left the lights on while we were talking.”  Again, Bob had brought a smile to John’s face.  Bob seemed to know this would be fodder for jokes for a long time but it couldn’t be helped.  John set down his tools.  He went to his little compact car, moved it into position and rooted around in the trunk for the jumper cables.  After attaching the cables, he looked at the enormity of the delivery truck next to his little car.  It looked like a mouse next to an elephant. His smile lines crinkled once more.  After a few moments the large truck was up and running.  Carefully, John pulled off the cables put them back into the trunk, moved his car out of the way, waving good-bye to Bob one more time. 

Monday, May 7, 2012

Real Life at the Crisis Shelter April 30-May 6, 2012

Weekly highlights

Monday April 30:  The developmentally delayed 25 year old man moved to stay with extended family in Ohio.  Mom was grieving but stayed with us.  She was very grateful for the exception.  One of our singles went on a second interview.  Some of our ladies are catching spring fever and are chasing men all over the place.  Staff have had many conversations about this addiction with them.  Most are open to discussion.         
Tuesday May 1:   Two of our singles are butting heads.  Both are very head strong so it has been interesting to work through the dispute with them.  Right now the conflict demonstrates itself in little nasty comments but this can quickly escalate so we are monitoring the situation closely.  One of our more anxiety driven guests almost moved out in a moment of frustration but then after conversation decided to stay.  We had to expand into another room to make room for singles.  One of our moms had her children taken by CPS today.  They were here waiting when she returned for the day.  Matters were complicated by the fact that she was running late.  CPS did a good job of keeping everyone calm during the situation.    One of our overflow guests was dropped off by the Spokane police who were surprised that we were willing to help her at all since they feel that she is a dangerous person, though they do not have enough evidence to take her in.  We agree based on past performance at the shelter, she has the overflow option only and that has low impact on the rest of the shelter.
Wednesday May 2:   One of our guests has been appearing angrier lately than is usual.  It looks to be relationship issues outside of the shelter.
Thursday May 3:    Pray for one of our consistent phase 2 guests.  She has lived a fairly rough life and has several illnesses that have resulted for her.       
Friday May 4:   One of our singles had been drinking.  The story is that her grandmother bought her the alcohol so that she would get kicked out and then have to move back in with her abuser.  I’m not sure if that true, but she was fairly drunk.  To compound matters she takes a lot of medication that does not work well with alcohol.  After she left (she was given the option of not drinking the rest of the day and then using our phase 2) she wandered the neighborhood and kept drinking until she passed out on East Sprague.  Paramedics were called and when they aroused her she became verbally abusive to them.  Since she had made some suicidal comments they took her in for evaluation.
Weekend:     Lots of “ah ha” moments for several of our ladies as they begin to understand that God has made them to be Royalty in the Kingdom of God.  Many conversations and classes are having an impact.  By the end of the weekend there were assorted dramas around the singles not getting along.  We are watching these situations carefully.

General comments:  This coming Thursday and Friday will be our first Guest Assistant/Good Worker retreat.  This will take place out at the camp and we are very excited over this event!                
    
Current Crisis Shelter Purpose Statement:

Sunday, May 6, 2012

My personal progres April 29-May 5, 2012

 TargetActually Done
Leadership BibleBe on page 630 (5 pg a day)On page 630
Faith in Action BibleBe on page 756 (6 pg a day)On page 756
Message Read Through7 Days youversion programOn track
Running25 miles a week26
Running 2012 Overall1212 miles by 12/12/12289.5
Crunches1000 a week1100
Floss7 times a week7 Days
Face Cleaning/Lotions7 times a week7
I Like Book7 times a week7
Modules2 a week3
Social Events3 a quarter3
Guy Time10 X a quarter2
Self Exam3 a week3
Book Reading1 Book a week2
Evening Prayer Meeting26 times a year10
Paid Speaking3 a quarter0
Date with Cara3 a quarter1
Date with Rachel1 a quarter0


We all have people and things that come against us reaching our goals.  In my goal setting workshops and in my life change seminar I cover some ways to increase your odds of success.  One of those ways is to seek accountability.  That is why I post this each week.  So that you can see my progress and boo or cheer me depending on what I am doing.  More importantly I do not wish to disappoint, so I push myself to meet or exceed my own standards.
I long to live heroically.  I read a book this week called the Butterfly Effect.  It essentially points out that doing little things can cause huge chain reactions to the future that may very well change the world.  The other book that I read this week The Resolution for Men, is simply refocusing me toward becoming the man that I want to be.
The other push this week was having a semi informal marriage counseling session.  I long to be a heroic husband and father.  This desire often serves against me as my own disappointments can prevent others from being totally honest with me.  Basically, I am falling short but nobody tells me so I think that I am doing great!  How sad.  I long to be open, transparent and continue on with my drive to live heroically in all areas of my life.
Next week will be very busy. I pray that I will be able to push through the challanges and meet my own standards head on.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Hero Quest Chapter 2 part 2

“It seems that you just told me that you needed to go to the hospital right away.  You should be back by five.”  He didn’t know what was really going on, but he was going to stand by shelter policies.  They were there for good reasons. 
But, this woman couldn’t relate with those reasons just now.  If fact, she seemed to quiver with anger.  She said nothing and went to her room.  John shrugged and went toward the staff office.
            The decoration on the door jingled like a warning bell.  “How goes the battle?”  John greeted Darlene.
            She looked up from updating the computer.  “Wild and woolly, as always.”  He walked past her as she spoke and started warming up his computer.  He walked back out for the daily snapshot book.  Darlene gave him the to-do list.  “Room five has a clog in the bathroom sink.  I was taking the new gal around back to show her the back gate and the bell when I saw Sue smoking a doobie.” 
“Really.” 
“Yeah it’s really clogged.” 
“No, I meant…” 
Darlene cut him off with a smile, “I know, I know.  She was very apologetic.  She even apologized for disrespecting our guidelines, the shelter, and the mission as a whole.  Before she left she even confessed to being here high on other types of drugs.  Weird, isn’t it?” 
“There is hope for that one.  Go ahead and put her on the accountability list, if she comes back, she’ll have to pass our drug test.”  Darlene nodded as she moved to do so.  “Anything else of interest?” John asked.
“A few people are still shaken up from yesterday, but for the most part they are very angry with Sarah.  There was even talk among the ladies in room nine about taking her out, permanent like.” Darlene winced and shuffled some papers.
“They know that’s not ok, right?” 
“I hope so but they are fairly passionate about this,” she shook her head.
“Make sure they know that I do not want any revenge,” he enunciated firmly.
“I will.”  There was a knock on the door and John took the book back to his office. 
            Flipping the book open, he read Maggie’s account of last night’s events.  Most of these he was intimately familiar with, but there were some notes about the after effects.  Several of the ladies had asked for a special prayer meeting and one of the volunteers had not only joined them but led them.  Apparently the ladies from room nine were having their own kind of meeting, thought John. 
Maggie’s account really made him sound like a hero, but he really didn’t feel that way.  He got home the night before and was so out of it.  What did his kids think of him?  Was he a real man?  He had been crying half the evening.  He shook his head as if to shake off last night’s unpleasant events.
Three people had checked in the night before, and John updated the register in the computer.  In the other room, he heard Darlene talking with a guest who was wondering if it was okay to take a job at a near by strip club.  Darlene was trying to lovingly tell her that she was worth much more than they would be paying her.  The guest was trying to explain that all she had to offer the world was an incredible body.  John could hear the desperation in her voice and longed for her to see herself as God saw her; so much more than simply a sexual object.   Darlene explained that shelter policy would not be giving her a late exception for that sort of job.  Darlene encouraged her to get a job that was more in line with her real value.  He heard the urgency in Darlene’s tone, explaining to the guest that she was precious in the sight of God, created for much more than this.  As she talked about purpose and value and dignity, he prayed that Darlene’s seeds would find good soil in this heart. 
He returned to his work, checking emails, making a quick to-do list and prioritizing the assorted crisis situations presented at the Shelter. 

Monday, April 30, 2012

Real Life at the Crisis Shelter April 23-29, 2012

Weekly highlights

Monday April 23:  The door of the dining room broke off of the hinge as one of our ladies was walking through it.  She was not hurt but was stuck trying to hold it up.  This was a bit more challenging for her since she had only one arm, however she did a great job!  We did an incredible amount of check ins today.  One of our guests in phase II had relapsed again so has now been moved to overflow as her only shelter option (10pm-6 am mattress on the floor).        
Tuesday April 24:  One of our former guests was in a motorcycle accident and passed away today.  Funeral will be next week.  Pray for one of our Guest Assistants who decided today that she going to quit smoking!      
Wednesday April 25:  Two of our singles started the morning in a verbal fight.  One of them happily left when she had cleared her thoughts.  The boyfriend of a former guest stole a different former guest’s truck and then left it at the shelter.  One of our guests through a temper tantrum over viewing modules, getting her belongings into a tote and a wide array of other complaints.  Ultimately she lost her bed at the shelter but is eligible of Phase II (5pm-8am dinner, breakfast offered)   
Thursday April 26:  Lots of people keep coming.  We are stuffed to the gills.  Many of the ladies have health concerns.  Please be praying for them.    One of our ladies had an ear infection and had heard that putting garlic in your ear can help that out.  Many questioned that idea but she insisted that it would help.  It turns out that putting garlic in your ear can increase the infection so by today she was in total pain.  Doctors removed the garlic and then treated the infection.  She is doing better now.      
Friday April 27:  One of our moms received her 2nd part time job.  She is very excited.
Weekend:    A couple of our guest assistants were drinking and asked to leave. 

General comments:      We set a record in March (1 more day so it will only go up from here) for number of regular shelter check ins (185) as well as total served (336)!           
    
Current Crisis Shelter Purpose Statement:

 The Crisis Shelter for Women and Children exists to increase the impact of our ministries of rescue, recovery and restoration by partnering with staff, volunteers and donors.  We will do this by meeting basic needs in a safe, clean, temporary shelter, with instruction and guidance for life transformation in a healing environment.

Sunday, April 29, 2012

My personal progres April 21-28, 2012

 TargetActually Done
Leadership BibleBe on page 595 (5 pg a day)On page 596
Faith in Action BibleBe on page 714 (6 pg a day)On page 714
Message Read Through7 Days youversion programOn track
Running25 miles a week 
Running 2012 Overall1212 miles by 12/12/12263.5
Crunches1000 a week 
Floss7 times a week7 Days
Face Cleaning/Lotions7 times a week7
I Like Book7 times a week7
Modules2 a week1
Social Events3 a quarter2
Guy Time10 X a quarter1
Self Exam3 a week2
Book Reading1 Book a week1
Evening Prayer Meeting26 times a year9
Paid Speaking3 a quarter0
Date with Cara3 a quarter1
Date with Rachel1 a quarter0


This week I finished one of my ultimate goals.  I completed my first novel and sent it to a publisher who has tentatively agreed to print it.  The book Hero Quest follows John Hero as he moves through life and interacts with a wide array of people at the Shelter.  This book shows the drama of Shelter life as well as the lifestyles of those who come and go around the Shelter.  Check it out. 
As a result of working on the book I had to not run all week.  This was a difficult call as I have big goals that will be more difficult to accomplish now.  But I can make up for those over the weeks to come. 
I finished reading a book called Founding Fathers.  Another examination of the Puritans.  In many ways I long to be like these people.  To be a man who is pure and holy before God.  While history tends to paint these folks with a broad Pharisee sort of brush they were mostly that way towards themselves.  I long to be pure and holy and to have Jesus find me serving Him, if He should return.  I hope to always be faithful to my Lord and King.
I did experience some disappointment this week when I lost the speech contest on Wednesday night.  While I believe that God would have me make a living as a public speaker I am starting to doubt that Toastmasters is my road to that destiny.  I am in prayer about this now.
The week was topped off with a celebration date with Cara.  I love spending time with her and look forward to a lifetime with her.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Hero Quest Chapter 2 Part 2

It took quite a few minutes for him to pull it together enough to get his day going again.  It was and it was time to kick start the family.  Though he felt with every fiber of his being that he did not want to go to work, he knew that he must return to the battle.  He had a job to do, a world to impact.  Determination filled his soul as he climbed the stairs to make coffee for Corrina and make breakfast.  This was just an ordinary morning of an ordinary day and regardless of how he felt inside, he would not let fear own him today. 
            The car was cold but at least he didn’t have to scrape the windows.  Most of the snow from the day before was gone but he could still see some in the shadows.  Less than a block from the house he heard the sound of his cell phone.  Thoughtfully, John reached instinctively for his cell phone.  “I know I’m not supposed to answer this while driving, but I should see who it is and put it on speaker if it seems to be important.”  Casually he looked at the number on the phone. “Hmm, it’s the Mission.  I should probably take this.”   Quickly he pushed the off button on the radio that was playing an audio book.  Deep down; he was frustrated because he was losing his momentum with the book by answering the phone. 
He flipped open the phone and pushed the speaker button.  “Good morning!” John nearly sang his welcome.   There was complete silence on the other end.  “Hello…  hello? …is anybody there?  …I guess it wasn’t that important.”  John smiled as he turned the audio book back on. 
Pulling into the parking lot, tension and fear crawled all over him.  Looking around the empty parking lot he took a deep breath, carefully opened the door, got out of the vehicle, opened the back door and took out his computer and backpack. 
Suddenly a large woman with a large black bag appeared seemingly from nowhere.  “I need to talk to you.”
“OK.  What’s going on?”  John hid his frustration from not even getting in the door of the office before he was accosted. 
“I need to go to the hospital.”  She put her bag on her shoulder as if to go.
“Oh man.  What’s going on?” 
“I think I got food poisoning or something.” 
“Would you like me to pray for you?” John offered.
“You can, but I need to go now,” she said abruptly.
“I understand, I hope you’ll be better soon.” 
The woman glared at him with an increasingly searching stare. “What if I don’t get back on time?” 
John looked at his watch casually.  “It’s not quite in the morning.  I am sure that you’ll be back by five tonight.” 
“So if I’m not back by five, you’re kicking me out for going to the hospital for food poisoning that you most likely gave me.” 
The thought going through John’s mind was, ‘I haven’t even gotten to my office yet.’  What he said out loud was, “I’ll tell you what.  I think that you’ll be back on time.  If it looks like you will be late, give us a call.  We will want you to bring paperwork from the hospital as proof that’s where you were.” 
“But I need to go to the store first and then I have to watch my sister’s kids in the valley.  I won’t get to the hospital before three at best.”  Her story began to change, John noticed.